How Does the Korean Honorific System Work?

 

How Does the Korean Honorific System Work?

한국어 높임말 체계는 어떻게 쓰일까?




The Korean honorific system is not a single switch between “polite” and “casual.” It is a multi-layered system that reflects age, hierarchy, and psychological distance. Speakers constantly adjust grammar, vocabulary, and sentence endings to match the relationship.


한국어의 높임말 체계는 단순히 “공손함 vs 반말”의 문제가 아닙니다.
나이, 사회적 위계, 심리적 거리에 따라 문법·어휘·어미를 계속 조정하는 체계입니다.



1. Three Core Speech Levels in Korean

한국어의 기본 말투 3단계

구분KoreanEnglish Description
1반말Casual / Informal
2존댓말Polite / Informal
3높임말Honorific (subject-elevating)
                     Formal Hopnorific                  

       


2. Banmal (반말): Casual Speech

반말: 친밀함을 전제로 한 말투


Banmal is used with close friends, younger people, family members, or when psychological distance is very small.


반말은 친하거나, 나이가 어리거나, 위계가 필요 없는 관계에서 사용합니다.


Grammar Characteristics

  • Plain verb endings

  • No honorific markers

  • Direct and intimate tone


  • -해체 사용

  • 높임 표현 없음

  • 친근하고 직접적


Example

  • “밥 먹었어?”

  • “Did you eat?”

This is neutral and friendly, but inappropriate for older people or formal situations.



3. Jondaemal (존댓말): Polite Speech

존댓말: 기본적인 예의의 말투


Jondaemal is the default polite speech used with strangers, coworkers, elders, or anyone you are not close to.


존댓말은 사회적으로 안전한 기본 말투입니다.


Grammar Characteristics

  • Polite endings (-요)

  • Can be used regardless of age until relationship is defined


  • ‘-요’ 체계

  • 상대를 존중하지만 높이지는 않음


Example

  • “밥 먹었어요?”

  • “Did you eat?” (polite)

This version adds politeness without elevating the listener’s status. It is safe in most situations.



4. Honorifics (높임말): Elevating the Subject

높임말: 상대 또는 화제를 높이는 말투

Honorifics go beyond politeness. They elevate the subject of the sentence, often an older or higher-status person.


높임말은 상대를 문법적으로 ‘위로 올리는’ 표현입니다.


Grammar Characteristics

  • Honorific suffix -시-

  • Special honorific vocabulary

  • Formal endings often used together


  • ‘-시-’ 삽입

  • 높임 어휘 사용

  • 격식체와 자주 결합




5. Same Meaning, Different Levels

같은 말, 단계별로 어떻게 달라질까?

Core Example: “Did you eat?”

Step 1: Banmal (반말)

  • “밥 먹었어?”

  • “Did you eat?”

Used with close friends or younger people.

Step 2: Jondaemal (존댓말)

  • “밥 먹었어요?”

  • “Did you eat?” (polite)

Used with strangers, colleagues, or elders in casual settings.

Step 3: Honorific Verb (높임말)

  • “식사하셨어요?” / "진지 드셨어요?" (higher honorific)

  • “Have you had a meal?”


Explanation 

  • “밥 ” → “식사” "진지" (honorific noun)

  • “먹다” → “하시다” "드시다" (honorific verb)

  • “-시-” elevates the subject



Step 4: Formal Honorific (격식 높임말)

  • “식사하셨습니까?”

  • “Have you had your meal?” (formal)

Used in formal situations, announcements, or respectful interviews.



6. Another Example: “Are you okay?”

LevelKoreanEnglish
반말“괜찮아?”Are you okay?
존댓말“괜찮아요?”Are you okay? (polite)
높임말“괜찮으세요?”Are you okay? (honorific)
격식“괜찮으십니까?”Are you well? (formal)

Explanation 
The addition of -시- marks respect toward the listener, even though the meaning stays the same.


7. Why This System Matters

왜 이 체계가 중요한가


In Korean, choosing the wrong speech level can feel more uncomfortable than making a grammatical mistake. Language directly affects relationships.

한국어에서는 문법 실수보다 말투 실수가 더 큰 거리감을 만들 수 있습니다.


8. Final Takeaway | 핵심 정리

Key Points

  • Korean honorifics reflect age, hierarchy, and emotional distance.

  • Politeness and honorification are different concepts.

  • The same sentence changes form depending on relationship.

  • 높임말은 관계를 반영

  • 존댓말 ≠ 높임말

  • 문장은 관계에 따라 변형


Actions You Can Take Right Away

  1. Identify who is being respected: the listener or the subject.

  2. Listen for -요 vs -시-.

  3. Ask: “What relationship is this sentence expressing?”

  1. 누구를 높이고 있는지 구분하기

  2. ‘-요’와 ‘-시-’ 차이 듣기

  3. 이 문장이 어떤 관계를 전제하는지 생각하기


In Korean, grammar is a reflection of relationships.

한국어 문법은 관계를 보여주는 언어예요!


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